One of the ways to prepare for a trip to Lima, or anywhere else for that matter, is to make connections
before you travel. The internet has made this more practical, thanks to the proliferation of social networking and dating websites. Essentially, the idea is to make contacts (with non-pros and semi-pros) before your trip, and even establish a rapport, thereby reducing the uncertainty on both sides.
I have seen this approach used in different ways. For example, many (though by no means all) of the chicas who set up profiles on dating websites are looking for a serious relationship or even marriage. One of my friends uses these sites to make connections and takes the girls on regular dates once he is in country. This approach is useful for someone looking for more than just pungtang or seeking a longer term relationship.
My approach is different. I make connections via the websites and then move the dialog to MSN Chat or to telephone communications. Once we are in real-time communication, I am direct without being vulgar or disrespectful. Sooner rather than later, though, I explain that I am
not interested in a LTR, yet am looking for something more intimate than friendship. I also make it clear that I am prepared to compensate them for their time (Monetary incentives are powerful given Peruvian income levels). I tell them that this has the potential to be more than a one-time experience; which is true as I have repeated with many of the girls. Sometimes this picture unfolds in a single conversation and sometimes I paint it over time. Needless to say, the sensibilities of some of the girls are offended with this approach. Those connections tend to end somewhat abruptly. Other chicas, however, have been jerked around enough by men to appreciate the honesty. They buy into the whole deal for various reasons but not least of all becaue it comes across as genuine. Those who stick around after being exposed to this pitch are what I like to call
qualified targets.
Are girls that go along with this ruse prostitutes? Well, if the measurement yardstick is the US moral system then the answer is yes. However, these girls are Peruvian- not American- and, therefore, it is more appropriate to judge them through the lens of Peruvian/Latin cultural norms. From that perspective, the answer is no. Latin culture is more accomodating to this kind of arrangement and no one gets labeled a prostitute. For sure, I treat these girls as dates, not whores. The way I look at this, you pay one way or the other so you might as well call it what it is. I maintain that once you factor in the true costs (time, entertainment, meals, transportation, gifts) it is actually more costly to date non-pros than to score semi-pros or working girls.
So here are the nuts and bolts. Firstly, it appears that just about everyone in Peru uses Microsoft Hotmail and is, therefore, accessible via MSN Chat. Therefore, the approach just outlined requires that you establish a Hotmail account if you do not already have one and that you download MSN Chat onto your PC if it is not already installed. Secondly, you need to create a profile on the website(s) you decide to work. A decent photo, included in the profile, goes a long way and Spanish is a prerequisite. Following is a partial list (0nly the sites I am aware of; there are bound to be others) of websites worthy of further investigation. Some of these sites are free and some of them are subscription services.
Social Networking
MySpace -
FREE
Badoo -
FREE
Netlog -
FREE
Faceparty > the Biggest Party on Earth™ -
FREE
hi5 - Who's in? -
FREE
Amigos.com - Online Personals for Latin Singles around the World. Find Single Latino Men and Latina Women for Dating, Friendship and Relationships and Chat -
DO NOT KNOW
Sonico - Amigos conectados -
DO NOT KNOW
Dating
Adult FriendFinder - The World’s Largest Online Adult Personals for Adult Dating, Swingers, Sexy Adult Photos, Amateur Member Videos, and Adult Chat -
SUBSCRIPTION BASED
Cyber Cupido -
SUBSCRIPTION BASED
Latin Dating - Latin Singles around the world! Free Dating Site - LatinLoveSearch.com -
FREE
Latin Dating, Latin Singles, Latin Women & Latin Personals at LatinAmericanCupid.com -
SUBSCRIPTION BASED
SEXY o NO? - Ranking de fotos, conocer gente y hacer amigos -
FREE
The benefits of doing the homework, before you travel, are self-evident. However, there are also downsides to this approach which means that it is not suitable for everyone. These include:
1. Language skills
This approach to making connections requires that you are competent at communication in Spanish.
2. Time
It requires an investment of time, in order to work the sites and to dialog with the chicas after you have established the connection.
3. Emotional Entanglement
Your tread a fine line with this approach and it is important to guard against the target, or yourself, getting emotionally involved, despite your best intentions and all the safeguards that you put into place. This was the pitfall that I fell into at first but experience has enabled me to refine my approach over time.
In conclusion, can this approach be made to work? The answer to that question is an emphatic
yes. I met many of the girls whose photos appear on this thread using this recipe. Is this approach for everybody? Of course not; it takes time, patience, Spanish skills, discipline, maturity, the ability to deal with rejection, and bucketloads of chutzpah. Given all of this, it is- irrefutably- a whole lot easier to visit
Tequila Rocks or
Las Suites de Barranco (if your budget permits) and take your pick. No fuss, no mess. I persist with this approach because it consistently yields a GFE that is rarely achieved with out-and-out P4P women. Call me sentimental but there it is.
The Cat